Why Fit Shaming Happens and What to Do About It – Confidence Tips Inside!

June 12, 2025

You’ve heard of fat shaming, but what about fit shaming? If you’ve ever been side-eyed for ordering a salad, judged for skipping a drink, or teased for sticking to your fitness goals, congratulations—you’ve been fit shamed.

In this episode, fitness expert Sara and self-proclaimed fitness convert Caleigh get real about what it feels like to be on the receiving end of fit shaming, how it plays out in everyday life, and why it usually says more about the shamer than the shamed.

Let’s dive into what they uncovered—complete with birthday cake drama, gym grind realities, and a splash of tough love.

From Fitness Journey to Judgment Central

Caleigh’s been on her fitness journey for over a year now—and while she’s not exactly flooded with judgment, she has felt the sting of unsolicited comments or side glances. Sara reminds us: if someone’s body looks strong, sculpted, or lean, it didn’t happen by accident. It took hours in the gym, thoughtful food choices, and daily commitment.

So why do people shame that?

The answer’s simple: jealousy and insecurity. When people see someone doing something they aren’t willing to do, it can trigger their own discomfort. Cue the snide remarks and passive-aggressive digs.

“Come On, Just Eat the Cake!”

This is where fit shaming gets sneaky. It’s not always loud or obvious—it can show up as “peer pressure in disguise.”

Think:

"You can’t just cheat for one day?"
"Wow, you're no fun anymore."
Or the classic: "Who brings grilled chicken to a party?"

Sara recalls prepping for bikini fitness competitions while still trying to live a balanced life—traveling for work, eating out, and dodging Rubbermaid-container-only vibes. Her key strategy? Get creative, not obsessive. Applebee’s Weight Watchers menu, anyone?

Meanwhile, Caleigh shares the now-iconic story of being offered birthday cake at a 9 a.m. party while intermittent fasting. The person pushing the cake? Spoiler: It was Sara. And she still brings it up to this day.

The Keyboard Warriors & Comment Section Critics

Social media has made it easier than ever to shame fit people behind a screen. Sara and Caleigh point out how often influencers are bombarded with harsh comments about their bodies or lifestyle.

Here’s the truth:
👏 Fit bodies don’t appear overnight.
👏 Those abs? Earned.
👏 That discipline? Built.

If you see someone posting their progress, maybe take a pause before typing. Ask yourself, “Would I say this to their face?”

What Fit Shaming Really Says About People

Sara drops some wisdom: “Hurt people hurt people.” Most of the judgment you’ll encounter is a reflection of the other person’s internal struggle, not your fitness choices.

The takeaway? People who shame others for making healthy choices aren’t living in their own happy place. They're projecting. But knowing that doesn’t make it hurt any less. When someone mocks your goals or belittles your achievements, it stings.

That’s why both Sara and Caleigh emphasize empathy—whether someone’s super fit or struggling with their health, unsolicited comments never help.

The Illusion of “Big” Fitness

Fun fact: The most jacked people you see on Instagram? They’re probably a lot smaller in real life than you’d expect. Bodybuilders and fitness models often have low body fat, giving the illusion of being huge when they’re actually lean and compact. So the idea that fit people walk around looking like The Hulk? Not so much.

The Bottom Line: Just Be Cool

Whether someone is starting their health journey, deep into training mode, or just living their balanced best life—your judgment isn’t helping. Support each other. Stay in your lane. And maybe don’t serve cake at 9 a.m. unless you’re really trying to tempt someone.

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